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Child Abuse

 

You Are Not Alone... "Sexual Abuse" Affects Many Families:

 

What Is Child Sexual Abuse

 

Our definition of Child Abuse for this article is being sexually abused under the age of 18 years.

When a child is sexually abused, she can be assaulted (or physically harmed) or exploited, which involves verbal or emotional abuse. The abuser, usually an adult or older child whom the child knows, will force, trick, bribe, threaten, or pressure her into sexual activity.

 

Child abuse may include:

 

o S-Sexual touching and fondling of a child.

 

o H-Having the child touch the abuser’s genitals or perform oral sexual acts.

 

o F-Forced or unforced vaginal or anal intercourse.

 

o E-Exposure to adult sexual activity or porn.

 

o H-Having a child pose, undress, or perform in a sexual manner.

 

o S-Spying on a child while she’s in a bathroom or bedroom.

 

Why the child should know

You owe it to your child — whether toddler or teen — to talk about the subject of child abuse and make sure she’s informed.

 

Here are some reasons:

 

o --Without prior knowledge of what it is and how to recognize it, young children may not recognize their victimization as sexual abuse.

 

o --Ki-They often keep quiet about the child abuse because they think disclosure will bring consequences worse than being victimized again. They may think it is telling on a loved one. Children often get the feeling that something they did caused the abuse, and therefore think that something must be wrong with them or that it’s their fault.

 

Effect of Child Abuse on the child

 

Because physical evidence of sexual abuse is often absent or difficult to detect, concerned adults should be aware of unusual changes in behavior. Children who have been sexually abused may start showing this behavior:

 

o C-Copy adult sexual behavior.

 

o I--Insist on sexual play with other children, toys, pets, or themselves.

 

o D-Display sexual knowledge beyond what’s normal for their age or maturity level.

 

o --Have unexplained pain, swelling, or bleeding around the genitals or mouth.

 

o H-Have urinary tract infections or sexually transmitted diseases.

 

o S-Suddenly becomes very quiet and withdrawn.

 

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You may wonder why do I have a web page on Child Abuse?

 

The reason is that our family was shocked when we were informed that my daughter had been sexually abused. As a minister at Seattle Revival Center  I thought I was trained to respond properly. Soon I learned that I knew little of how the victim felt and how I should respond to offer the most support. After counseling and time things did improve somewhat.

But then one day God gave my daughter a wonderful gift of His love when he touched her with his hand of love giving her the ability to forgive and be free from her past.

In a short time I realized that God had also given me a gift of faith for others who had been hurt in Child Abuse.

As I travel around the world three times each year it has been a thrill for me to see the smiles of joy as the trauma is removed from hurting peoples lives.

I have seen hundreds of men and women healed emotionally by the power of Jesus since then of the scars of child abuse. Setting them free from the bad memories, anger and feeling unclean. I give all the thanks to Jesus for what He did in my daughters life and in the lives of hundreds of other victims. It is my hope that God will do the same for you. God can heal and restore those that have gone through sexual abuse.

Until recent years sexual abuse has not been opening talked about. People were too ashamed or embarrassed to speak about the sexual abuse they had been through. Sexual abuse does not only affect girls but many young men have also been sexually traumatized.

 

Is There An Epidemic of Child Abuse?

Yes! One in five girls and one in seven boys have been sexually abused before the age of eighteen.

Who Are These Abusers?

 

90% of the victims of child sexual abuse know their abusers--they are the fathers, mothers, siblings, close relatives, friends, or other caretakers of children. They are rarely the monsters we imagine lurking in the corners of our playgrounds and parks.

 

Can Abusers Change?

Experts say YES!

 

But sending abusers to prison without treatment does not stop further abuse. Some of those prosecuted for their crimes and assigned to specialized treatment have learned to control their behavior.

A study in Vermont showed that without treatment, 38% of abusers returning to the streets abused again. With treatment, this incidence of re-offending dropped to 6%. These estimates will vary from country to country but in all countries it is an enormous problem that has effected so many.

In the majority of cases the victims of sexual abuse do not know how to respond. They are torn as they try and decide what they should or should not do?

When parents of a sexual abuse victim discover what has happened their immediate attentions is usually on protecting the families reputation and that of the aggressor more than thinking of the emotional needs of the victim.

So the initial response of the victim and their family is secrecy at all cost. No one must ever find out. Usually the aggressor is either a family member or a friend of the family. This is very confusing to the victim.  Why are they so concerned about the agressor and overlook the victim of child abuse? Do not be angry it is done out of ignorance.  People just do not know how to respond.

 

We can not generalize or tell anyone what to do but in most cases professional counselors would agree that keeping everything to yourself is one of the worst things you can do. You do not need to tell everyone but you need someone to talk to. There are qualified people who will understand, and love you through the healing process.

Many victims of child abuse turn to the church talking to the pastor (priest), his wife (or sister in Catholic Church). Others will turn to a trusted friend or a professional counselor.

What are you afraid of? Are you afraid people will reject you? If so this is normal.

Are you afraid of what the person will do you if you tell others who they are and what they did? If they threaten you it is a matter of controlling you.  Do not let their threats keep you in secracy.  Talk to someone you can trust.

 

Are you trying to protect the person who hurt you? Do you think it was your fault that it happened?  It was not your fault!

 

I would encourage you to talk to a person of your choice and identify your fears.

 

Do you feel like no one will understand how you feel?

 

Some will say, "Oh I know how you feel...now forgive and get on with your life!" If they respond with those words then they do not understand! For most it is not that easy!

No one may truly understand how you feel but those who love you want to understand.

One thing for certain is God does understand. He saw what happened and knows your pain and hurt. Jesus is a good God but yes there is a very evil devil.

Good things come from God and bad things from the devil. Do not be mad at God...be angry with the devil. There are many people who will understand. They understand that forgiveness and healing are a process. I encourage you to take the risk and talk to someone you trust.

 

Do you feel unclean? Do you feel like there is no reason to live?

 

This is normal.  You are going to make it!

 

Keep you chin up!  It is normal to feel this way after all that you have gone through. But try and remind yourself that you have done nothing wrong Really! You are the victim what they did to you was wrong.

 

The good news is God is going to help you!

 

You are going to make it!

 

In a short time you will fell fine and it will all seem like a dream. God is alive and He is going to help you!

 

Why does Darrel Stott care about you?

 

As a young girl his daughter was sexually abused. He had no idea how to respond or how to help his daughter. Most of what he did was of little help to her. As she grew older she went for professional counseling and gained some help. But in the areas of anger and forgiveness she needed more than professionals could offer. In a church service during the singing God touched his daughter and gave her a miracle. As a result she was able to forgive and the anger was removed.

But something more happened in that meeting. God gave Darrel compassion for the sexually abused and a desire to see them also healed.

A gift was given to Darrel from God to bring hope to the sexually abused and the ability through prayer to see them set free from bad dreams, memories and the torment of the sexual abuse. As he now travels from nation to nation he always tries to be sensitive and bring hope and healing to them through the power of Jesus Christ.

 

What About you? You are so special to God!

 

Understand God loves you so much...really! You are so special and God wants you well.

 

Is it possible for you to attend a meeting where Darrel Stott is ministering? Check his calendar.

 

Have you read his books or seen his video's that will build faith in you for a miracle?

 

The solution to your healing of child abuse is Jesus Christ. God loves you so much and He desires for you to receive a miracle and be healed.

God really love you!  You have a good future don't give up!

Why not ask God today for a miracle.

Send Darrel an email and let him now how you are doing and he would be interested to know if this page has been a help to you. He will personally read your email and answer you.

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